Life in Progress: A weblog by Heidi Price

Just say no

I have never really been good at telling people no. And, lately it seems like more and more people want a piece of my time. I feel rushed and find myself committing to things I don't really want to do. Even worse, my always-honest friend who works in a bank, told me that lately, every time I've gone out with him, I have seemed really distracted and in a hurry.

My worst fear has been realized. I've become one of those people. You know the ones. They constantly look at their watch or cell phone to check the time in the middle of conversations with friends. Those people who say "uh-huh" when you talk, but you can tell they aren't really listening.

The thing is, I'm not really that important. None of us are. So I made a vow, last week, to try to protect my own time and the time I need to spend with the people who really matter in my life.

I was tested within hours of making this vow. A friend, who I hadn't seen in some time, called to ask if on Sunday I could help her write a public relations proposal for a neighborhood action group she had joined. The phone call caught me off guard and I agreed. A few minutes later, I called her back.

I told her about my vow. I told her that I work five days a week at a newspaper and on Saturday, I usually work for my mom's auction company to make extra money. I told her that Sunday is my one day when I don't work and that "I'm really sorry but I'm going to have to cancel."

So it's Sunday. It's beautiful outside, almost 70 degrees. I've gone to the track to run and then we played three sets of tennis. I am sitting on his front porch, a glass of Coppola Rosa in my hand, and I am typing this blog.

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